Five tips for saying no
- Desiree
- June 6, 2017
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So here are five reasons from which you can conclude that you are often more likely to disappoint others if you keep saying 'yes'. If you do it right, you will find a good balance in learning to say yes and no. Start with these five tips.
Tip 1 of the five tips: realize why you say no.
If you say yes to everything, then you can also accidentally say yes to something that you can't do at all. For example, on a task at work. Out uncertainty did you say yes to something. Unsure to disappoint anyone perhaps. But the consequences of, for example, your incompetence are usually greater than saying no. So saying no is sometimes the best thing for the other person.
2: Realize why you say no.
So saying no is saying yes to something else. Think about your own relaxation. Then learn to see how important that is to you. Or, to use the example above, that you are given another task at work where you come into your own much more. Then you also start with a better feeling and you do not become insecure.
3: Make detours for yourself.
Teach things like: I think about it. For example, if your employer often surprises you with 'can you work extra?' and you know you have trouble with that, come up with something else. For example, learn to say, "I'm thinking about it." Or if you think that's too vague, say: 'I'm looking at my calendar.'
4: Realize that you won't be able to help others for much longer if you never give yourself time.
A very famous one, actually. You can't always go beyond your own limits and never expect to meet yourself. At that moment you can no longer say yes to anything and you are forced to say no until you have recovered.
5, the last of the five tips: say no, so that you show that you can set boundaries.
To continue the example of work, if you say no once, you show that you can stand up for yourself. And if you can justify it, you show that you think carefully about situations. In short, you make a confident impression.